Fascinating question:
X/M isn't entirely my cup of tea, but since you've mentioned X/M and what appears to be the female gaze I know of a couple of mainstream film/TV scenes that may interest you - do DM me if you're interested, since there's a lot of people here that don't seem to appreciate such scenes being posted here, not even F/F seems tolerable for some.. and no females here seem sufficiently interested in such scenes either lol..
Of X/F, Weeds - Mary Louise Parker - would be my pick, it seemed to tick all the boxes as far as the women I know were concerned.
X/M isn't entirely my cup of tea, but since you've mentioned X/M and what appears to be the female gaze I know of a couple of mainstream film/TV scenes that may interest you - do DM me if you're interested, since there's a lot of people here that don't seem to appreciate such scenes being posted here, not even F/F seems tolerable for some.. and no females here seem sufficiently interested in such scenes either lol..
Of X/F, Weeds - Mary Louise Parker - would be my pick, it seemed to tick all the boxes as far as the women I know were concerned.